Well if Your Feeling a Little Enraged about now... where is this Leading?... Can't be Talking about Me!... Guess what!... a Raw Nerve is being Exposed... You see either You or Someone You Know is a Victim!

To Many times You will find We all make the Mistake of staying in a Place or a Position we Truly have No Control over... Your Home... Your Job... or Keeping Friends or Associates we would not normally Associate with... if put them through the True Friend Test... (True Friend Test is does this Person make me Feel Positive about Myself... Do they Offer Encouragement... Do they Promote the same Moral Values as I do... or Do they Make Me Smile whenever I Meet them... if not then why are they a Friend)

Now to Explain how to Stop being a Victim is not an Easy Subject... but the Truth be Told it Really is Easy to Change things in Life! that Simple Answer is... before You Ask Others to Change for You... is to Change the Things dislike about Yourself!... Your Home!...Your Job!... or even the People who Surround You... Yes Take the Initiative Yourself... Don't Wait to Change You!

You See Statistics show... Those Who are Successful... became Successful by foremostly Believing in Themselves... You will never Hear them saying... Well You see I Failed because I was Raised Wrong... My Ex this or that caused me to Fail... and Never... Never will You Hear they were in the Wrong Place at the Wrong Time!... You See they May have been Raised in the Wrong Family... May have had Failed Relationships... Had what Others thought Bad Place Wrong time Scenarios... but through all Adversity they never Gave Up Hope or that Inner Desire to Dream... but Instead they Dreamed Big! and were Rewarded... *if Don't Believe this Read about any Self Help Book...You will Find... its in All of them.*

Now Your Saying but Hey it Can't Be this Simple!... and Rightly so... Your also very Right!... Change Does Not Come Overnight!... In Fact My Friend if You Undertake this Initiative to Change Yourself!... Your Life!... You will Find You will not Only be Undertaking a Lifetime Requirement to Check Deep inside Yourself before Making any Decison... Also You Must Check and Recheck how it can be taken by Others...(Warning-Consequence: when You Apply an Idea or a Concept it always Causes a Reaction... Hopefully if You do it Right it will be Positive but sometimes can be Viewed in a Negative way... So always take this into Account...)

The Further Bad News is as You Change... You will Alienate Others less Positive then You with Your Enthusiasm... even maybe Costing You Friendships and what thought were Loves... Usually from Negative People who are more then willing to Let You know... You will Fail!... even before You try to Impliment any Changes... or Present a Totally Good Idea... The Advice here is Use these Types as Sounding Boards as to what May or May not work with Negative People... but Steer as Far away from these People as Possible...don't let their Negativity steer You away from what You think is a Good change or let them Consume Your Time with their Negativity. (Yes this is also Taught in All Self Help Books too... so is not an Original Idea)... Secret to Life if want to Succeed always Give Credit where Credit is Due!

The Thing is To Stop being a Victim or Falling Victim to Others Stories of themselves being Victims... You Must take into Account all Circumstances...

Question Yourself if in an Abusive Relationship or Others are... Ask why Do You or They Allow this to Happen... Can anything be Done to Help Yourself or Them... Foremostly if it is Not You!... The Advice Professional People would give is... Never get Involved or Give Advice unless... know it may work for their Circumstances...(You Might be Accused of Destroying a Relationship or a Friendship if Other Person Views it as that... it is Called Mettling in others Affairs... for a No better term of the word to use. ) It is the Other Persons Responsibility to Correct what makes them Unhappy or change their Own Circumstances... it is Not Your Job...

Most of all if Know for a Fact the Persons life is in Danger then Annoymously Call the Authorities such as Police or Legal... but Never... Never take it in Your Mind You can Help... Unless the Other Party wants to Change their Way of Life... and Not always is the Person telling the Truth... or even maybe Aware!... They themselves are Adding Fuel to their Own Dilemma... by not Truly Listening to what is being said to them. (Ask Yourself How Many Times Talked to People... where shortly after beginning Conversation they say things... that Given way said... can be a Means to even get You Yourself Upset or even Angry... They may be saying same thing to Person they are Accusing... being Abused by... Not All People are Smart enough to Figure Changing Your Vocabulary or waiting for Others to Finish what they are saying... can Change their Circumstances...or They might not even have a Desire to Change their Condition... Yes They even may Desire the Attention being a Victim gives them) *Remember the Majority of Police Officers Killed in Line of Duty are Killed stepping into a Domestic Dispute*

Remember being a Victim come in all Forms... You Yourself must make a Concerted effort to Change that which is in You Holding You back!...Remember Sometimes it is a Vivid Imagination that Keeps You as a Victim... whereby Simply Grabbing as they say... The Bull by the Horns and Repeatly saying I will No Longer let You bother Me... Will You become the Person want to be!... and Remember the Only Excuse You have for Anyone or Any Event to Hold You Back!... is by Letting it... So instead of letting it Hold You back... Correct that which bothers You and Move Forward in Life... Using it as a Reference as to Never Allow it to Happen again... Repeatly Refresh in Mind it was Only Fear!... Not Truly the Circumstance that Made You Immobile to Move Forward.